so, guess what a bird taught me
The train I take to work every morning is on the bottom of an elevator shaft in my neighborhood. This elevator shaft has a long hallway surrounded by windows. It is not uncommon for birds to get stuck in the elevator shaft.
While waiting for the elevator, I couldn't help but notice a bird who was constantly flying into the windows trying to get out. The bird didn't understand that it couldn't fly through the window, so it kept trying. The reason why it kept trying is because it didn't understand why it couldn't fly through the window. It didn't understand that just because it could see it's goal, taking the route it was trying to take was not the way to get there. It would have to find another way. This is what the bird did not understand.
I began thinking about us (humans...people in general) and how we do this to ourselves. That bird is no different from us. We frequently have a goal set in our sights, but can't get past hurdles keeping us away from reaching them. This is because we rarely take the time to understand what those hurdles are. Instead we try our best to barrel through them without much thought or method. We don't think to find another way out of our own personal elevator shafts because we don't understand that we can't fly through the glass.
I contemplated helping the bird, but I didn't. It was being frantic and it was clearly paniced. If I tried to take the bird in my hands it would've resisted and crapped in my hand, probably. This is also reflective of us in two ways:
1) The bird CLEARLY needed my help, but I did not help it because I didn't want to get a little bit of crap on my hands. I should've at least tried to help. How often do we see someone who is in need and we keep it moving because helping may be a small in convenience to us?
2) The bird was so paniced and frantic that it would've definitely resisted and hence, pushed me away when I tried to help. How often are we in a tight fix and someone comes along to help, but our own stubborness or pride pushes them away.
In the 10 seconds I sat there watching that bird, I thought of all this and figured it was worth sharing. Maybe I'm looking a bit too deep into those two seconds, but I came to learn something none the less:
Instead of spending so much energy trying to break out of a negative situation, spend some time trying to understand what is happening. That way, when the situation presents itself again, you will not react in a panic and you will KNOW how to resolve the issue more efficiently.
If you have the means, then help someone who needs you. It is our duty. Who cares if it holds you up for a second or to. The world belongs to all of us and time does not tick to your cue.
If you need help and someone offers it to you, there is no shame in accepting. As long as you are working to improve yourself, there is no harm in taking a hand that is reached out to you.