the wonderous wiles of women...
Its kind of unsettling when a woman goes out of her way to remind you that you're just friends. Its perfectly understandable for them to put forth an extra effort to let us (men) know that they're not at all interested in us since 99% of the men they encounter are, indeed, trying to "hit dat".
I'm not even the type of guy who hits on women I consider my friends. As a matter of fact my lack of social skills with women I take a liking to is severely overbearing (see three blogs before this one), so is it at all necessary to go the extra mile and call me "buddy" or "pal" or blurt things like, "I know that I'm not ready for a relationship with ANYONE right now," out of context? You don't need to remind me that you're not or no longer interested in me. Here's an example of what I'm talking about:
ME: Hey, how are you?
WOMAN: Hey, BUDDY!
ME: How was work today?
WOMAN: It was good. How was your's, pal?
ME: It was pretty cool, I guess.
WOMAN: I know that I'm not ready for a relationship with ANYONE right now!
NOTE (understand this): IF YOU ARE THE TYPE OF WOMAN WHO NATURALLY SAYS THINGS LIKE "BUDDY" OR "PAL", THEN I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU. I REPEAT...NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU!!!!!!!!
NOTE OF THE NOTE: Its a shame that I have to make notes like this, but I do. Otherwise, people would get offended or take me out of context.
A girl I once dated (not my ex...just a girl I dated) did this. Before we entered the realm of dating or "talking" (whatever) she said, "Hello," when she answered my phone calls. Other times she said, "Hey Quincy!" When we entered the dating stages she'd answer the phone and say, "Hey babe," or something like that. Now that we've exited the dating stages you'd think she'd revert back to "Hello," or "Hey Quincy!" Nope. Now she says things like:
"What up, pimpin'?!"
"Hey there, buddy boy."
"YOOOOO, Q! What up, yo?"
I get it. We're just friends now. No need to talk to me like a frat guy.
Its not just that, either. I feel like giving the pat during hugs is much worse than the change of greeting tactic. The infamous "half-hug" is painful to go through, as well. Whats even worse is when you get the half-hug with a pat. Yikes!
Stop it ladies.